Monday Motivation #FOODFORTHOUGHT


What I love about this picture is that where ever you are in your life you can apply these words. Of course life can allow you stumble and fall but the testimony is to keep going.
As you start a new week and began to make new goals for yourself. Know that if thrown with the curve balls of life learn how to catch and your testimony will be a home run!

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Faithless Christian


For the past couple weeks faith has been one of the biggest topics. I really have been wondering why because as a Christian faith is our fuel! Then I sat and thought about the things that I am currently going through and do I have faith that God will really work them out??? I pray and but I also tend to try to work out my problems on my own. Coming up with plan b’s or c’s. I know that i am not the only one! Its not intentional but as a human when you are in trouble you go into survival mode. As a Christian that is where we go wrong! We should completely submit and allow God to work it out… The question I often ask myself is…does this make me a faithless Christian???  So my prayer to God before I bring anything to his throne is to allow me to weak so he can be strong in all my situations. If you are like me please keep this scripture in your spirit. Faith is our ultimate dance with God. So allow God to move!
Hebrews 11:1
By Faith
11 Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.

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” I don’t want to be married anymore”

I know you may be shocked to hear a newlywed say those words but its true. When I look up the word marriage the definition takes LOVE right out of the equation ( the formal union of a man and a woman, typically recognized by law, by which they become husband and wife).
I think that’s why there are so many martial  issues. Married people think of their marriage as a situation their in or contract that can be broken.  How can you not forget one of the first covenants that God put into place. When I think of God laying Adam to sleep and then took one of his ribs to make Eve makes me feel special.
If you are married that should make you feel so joined to your spouse and the love that you should have one another should engulf your hearts.
So I am no longer saying that I am married. I will now say that I have been joined together with Alex by God (which is love).

This goes out to all married couples. This is dance with your spouse for a lifetime.  Not a contract or business deal that can be broke easily.

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Being a Christian and having depression


I was just listening to 90.5 and they were talking about Christians battling with depression, anxiety, or chemical imbalances. How we are scared to reveal those struggles due to our faith….

Well my name is Sharda and I am a 27 year old that battles with anxiety and depression. I do not take pills because of course I know where my help comes from.
I was about 10 when I realized that sometimes I would get sad for no reason. My mom would always comfort me and tell me to pray and that it was OK.  As I got older I never wanted to talk about it. I was always afraid to express that some times i feel like the walls are closing and I cant breathe. What will people think??? That I am crazy! Or that I don’t pray or ready the bible enough????
It started to take a toll on my life when my mom passed away. There were days I couldn’t even get out the bed . My doctor told me to get on meds and I told him I would and never filled the prescription. I talked to God and asked Him to help and He has! Do I still have my days? Yes! Do I still need to walk away and have some time for myself? Absolutely!  This doesn’t mean I don’t have faith and that I am doubting God. i have come to the realization that I am human… I would never want any of my brothers and sisters in Christ feel they they are alone. We need to help and encourage one another


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“I am tired of FIGHTING”


As I sit here contemplating about life, I see there is a plethora of constant battles. 
I see battles in jobs, marriages, churches ect. Me in particular I’m always fighting my flesh. Fighting my personal will so i can see the Lord’s will come to fruition. I don’t know about you but sometimes I find myself wanting to take a vacation from my normal characteristics.  Funny huh? But i am serious. If you think about it and really ask yourself was there times you didn’t want to do the right thing? You wanted  lash out in a way that wasn’t Christ like and not be judged for your actions? Yep! That’s what the enemy whispers in my ear from time to time. The reason I am even writing this blog is to let you know that even as a God fearing woman I stumble in my thoughts. I just  can’t see where a Christian can get a break! So God started to speak to me. He let me know the reason why we are made is to worship him and trust his plan for our lives. If you ever get overwhelmed and have thoughts like this when you are tired of fighting. Know that you don’t have to fight! You just have to trust in the Lord!

Please read 2 Chronicles vs 17

But you will not even need to fight. Take your positions; then stand still and watch the LORD’s victory. He is with you, O people of Judah and Jerusalem. Do not be afraid or discouraged. Go out against them tomorrow, for the LORD is with you!”

Dances of Life

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“Accepting Yourself”


I am reallt trying hard to accept my body. I have blogged many times about my body. About loving and accepting the way you look. Well ladies I have a cofession to make, my state of mind wont allow me to believe what I speak to you. I know I’m not the only one?! You said ok I love me and then you look in the mirror, it seems like all of your imperfections have been magnified! (LoL). The word “hate” comes out of my mouth when speaking about my body. I say to my loved ones “I hate the way it looks”, “look at my butt, i hate the way its shapped”, and “i hate that I dont have a flat tummy like the celebs”.  But if you dont love yourself the way you are. Will you ever love yourself? Ask yourself what are you saying to God? He made YOU! With all the working out and eating right these questions and thoughts may run through your head. However you are made in a PERFECT image. GOD’S….

pray for me as I pray for all the women who struggles with their image. Keep praying, keep smiling, and keep dancing.


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Being Married and Healthy….Can it be done???


Its been a while since I blogged. I  started a new dance called”marriage”… which it seems like you dont have time for all the “me” time you use to have. Since my dance partner chose me its been hard to watch what I eat or to make healthy choices. He loves to say “baby eat this with me”, “one bite wont hurt”, and  “ewe you are always eating bird food”. Thats only a portion of what he thinks lol. So I made a deal with him once a week I will eat with you but for the rest of the week dont tempt me. Encourage me. That was easier said and done because he kept making and bringing all the wrong food home. I began to pray because I wanted to endulge with my husbamd but I also didnt want to let myself go. I finally found a trick!!! I would ask him to work out with me and I called it a form of “spending time”. He now leaves me alone. Telling me you go ahead baby. Ill catch up later! Lol. So women if you feel that this is hard try to get your husband to join with you. Let him know how important it is for you not to only look fit but to be healthy.

Remember he married you and he chose you for all of your attributes! Incuding your body!

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Sometimes Love needs a little Valor

Valor such an interesting word which means bravery; I was reading God’s word today and came across Judges 6:12 and it stated “the Lord is ALWAYS with you, you mighty man of valor”! I said to myself “wow he has so much faith and thinks so highly of us why do we doubt”? Now if anyone that is close to me knows that I am pretty strong woman but when it comes to matters of the heart I can be fearful. I met someone a couple months ago and I thought it would go past a week. He is someone that I wouldn’t go after or give the time of day so I anticipated the norm. A man always tries to get into my pants before my heart, afraid to commit, or lives at home with his mother! LOL now ladies I know you feel me on this one. To my surprise one day he asked if we could pray together. I was shocked! I said” OMG this one maybe a little harder to figure out”. Then we began to pray with each other every day. He let me know I don’t want to date you, I want to court you. I have been speechless and also fearful of what was happening. So I continued to pray and my family and friends was letting me know to let God take control. I just couldn’t get that concept through my head; I kept saying “I’ve been hurt before.” So today one of my friends Talon Mayo left an interesting Dialogue on my FB page; “Finding the Right Person”. What stuck out the most in this article was “God determines who walks into your life. It’s up to you to decide to let leave.” It touched me so much that I decided to let the guy that I am seeing read it as well. His words to me was “ I love you, so if we let God take the lead over our relationship nomatter what we go through WE won’t question if we found the right person…. So my advice to you is that know that it takes VALOR to overcome any situation all you have to do tie your knot and hold on to God’s unchanging hand! P.S. It’s ok to allow yourself to dance♥

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“Favor… Do you accept it?”

The reason for this blog is that we all take advantage of Gods favor. We never stop and think of the small things he does for us. Breathing, walking, talking, even dancing. This is all favor of God. Think about the things you pray for. You may ask for a financial blessing and God blesses you to have a better budget. You may say to yourself man i could use some money and God allowed you to move something so you can have more a money in your expences. That is favor! Why do we have a hard time accepting and being grateful of his favor? Is it becuase we are selfish or greedy? Or we feel that blessings should be materialistic? Please start counting your blessing rather than listing your complaints. Keep praying, God is always moving… have faith… Its ok to Dance with him♥ Sharda

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“The Bodonkadonk Challenge”


So after losing 97lbs i am having. A little trouble with toning and to get what we call the “apple bottom”. With a 2 year long journey I decided to not only focus on just the weight loss, but to be healthy and fit! After seeing the Super Bowl and watching Beyonece’s performance i was shocked. She looked amazing after having a baby! All I said to myself was how can I get my thighs to look like that?!(lol) With all the rave about her performance on FaceBook I challenged my friend Tamika Newhouse that by May 15th I will have some banging ASSets. Its always good to keep short term goals and to have someone to challenge you to them! Find a new groove, continue to grow, and create a new dance ♥ Be blessed Sharda Smith

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